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caecandy
23 October 2010 @ 09:53 pm
If you wanted to have children and had trouble conceiving, would you be more likely to consider IVF, surrogacy, or adoption, and why?

I seem to only answer these when they make me angry, but I suppose I'm just a generally confrontational person. 

None of the three are simple. IVF is expensive, Surrogacy is difficult emotionally, adoption is full of red tape. Personally, I'd try for adoption first, but kids aren't a huge priority-- not just now, but in the future, I'm not a very maternal type.

But that isn't the part that makes me furious. It's the part where all these people are so obsessed with having biological children. 'Their' children, is if you can't love a child as much if they aren't like you. 

Genetics doesn't matter at all to me. It's the bond you get from raising a child that matters, not those paltry nine months in the womb, not genetics. Love should be more than that. Love should be about a child for who they are, not how they are like you.

And yeah, it does strike a nerve because my sister has a different father than me. He was some dick that my mother dated in high school. Does genetics mean that he is my sister's 'real' father? Never. My dad raised her from when she was only months old. He is her father. He legally adopted her as his own. Does he love her less because he isn't related to her? Never.

And my sister has the same situation. Her boy is from a former marriage, her girl from her current. Does her husband love one less due to genetics? 

It seems stupid to me that people who want a child so badly can't manage to love a child if they aren't 'actually related'. 

I love my sister-- I don't tell people she's my 'half-sister', because in all the ways that matter, she isn't. She's family and I love her as much as I love my 'real' brother.
 
 
caecandy
03 May 2010 @ 05:54 pm
Some animal rights activists are fighting to replace the term 'owner' with 'guardian' to convey a more balanced relationship between a person and her or his pet. Do you agree or disagree with the importance of this mission?

I don't think the word matters, but I think the way people think about it really does. I've seen to many people who think of pets as objects, rather than as beings. You should be guardian, not an owner. Does it matter how you say it? No. It matters that you realize an animal is alive and you can't just treat it how you'd like.

You can't buy an animal, you adopt it. That word shouldn't matter either, but it does, because it means you can't just take it back or trade it in. You can't unadopt. Guardian better explains the requirements, but just changing the word isn't what matters, it's changing the people saying it.
 
 
caecandy
12 February 2010 @ 10:21 pm

It wasn't until Play mentioned it in Chat today that it occured to me that anyone but Ev might be reading this. ^^'' I'm actually just finishing chapter five. Disclaimer as usual: I didn't write the Bible and this is a rough draft, placed here as a temporary thing. Maybe once I'm done I'll edit all this.

And with no more stalling, I present...

Of the Divine: Chapter FourCollapse )
 
 
caecandy
11 February 2010 @ 12:33 pm
My Entry for the ARC contest on Marmalade_Fish. Reposted here so I don't have to dig through comments to find it. :)
Jamie!Fic ahoy.Collapse )
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caecandy
11 January 2010 @ 06:14 pm
This is just a short drabble based off a present from Tria. Color-shipping is all the rage, I hear. :)

Red/Purple OTP?Collapse )
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caecandy
28 September 2009 @ 07:53 pm
Well, Ev wanted to make sure it's her filter messing LJ up and not the site, so I'm just posting a nonsense entry.

I was home sick today because allergies suck. I've gotten nothing done but hanging around in the Endless Chat. I know, I'm so cool.

I'm making pasta, so I've got to cut this short. :)

EDIT: I burned the pasta and Ev's filter is blocking my LJ.   :(
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caecandy
22 September 2009 @ 08:37 pm
Disclaimer: I own not  the Bible, dear lawyers.

Unbeta'd and all, subject to changes, you get the drift.

 

Of the Divine: Chapter ThreeCollapse )

 


 
 
caecandy
09 September 2009 @ 05:17 pm

I don't own the bible. All of this is WiP, subject to change-- you get the drill.

Chapter TwoCollapse )
 
 
caecandy
07 September 2009 @ 01:33 am
I don't own the Bible and all that.

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caecandy
06 September 2009 @ 11:53 pm
Okay, this is unbeta'd. It will be up other places later when it's finished and edited. Don't judge me! Subject to constant change and edit.

Prologue:

 

Story behind cut.Collapse )


 
 
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